Show Me, Me!

!!!TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOURSELF!!!

My mother and I stood outside talking which seemed like forever and I was telling her of a situation that occurred recently.  After telling her the story I ended by saying that I was tired of "adults" not communicating their feelings until its too late as if they were children and how I was over it.   As I spoke, I immediately regretted telling her due to the look upon her face.  I knew that a lecture was about to take place.......AND IT DID!  My mother has always been the type that would see both sides of the coin but it seemed at that moment she only viewed one, lol! She began to say that I was a hard person to get along with.  That I end relationships too soon because I don't accept people for who they are because I'm too busy wanting them to be me!  She followed it up with saying that my  "adult acquaintances" maybe didn't communicate their issue with me because that tongue of mine is a  little too much to listen to! WHOA!!!!  Now that was a blow to the gut; Especially since I had similar feedback just earlier this week.  

I have been reading a book called "The People Factor"by Van Moody. Its a  book that helps you with the necessary tools to help build successful relationships.  In the book it states that before you build great relationships you have to dissect yourself and see where the problem areas are so you can change them before bringing them into a new relationship.  He suggested that you get people very close to you to answer a few questions, such as:  1) What do you think are my greatest qualities 2) What are my greatest weaknesses 3) What would I need to do to relate better to others.  Well I sent out the questions earlier this week to a few people that I knew would not hold any punches and the consensus was......I WAS PRETTY AWESOME!  

SERIOUSLY THOUGH.....I was a hot mess on paper!  They all agreed that I was loyal, and generous; but they also agreed that I was hard to talk to when I was "on one"  and that I immediately dropped people or situations when it didn't live up to my expectations (in so many words).  

There is a saying that goes:  If one person calls you a duck, don't pay much attention to it; if two people say that you are a duck, begin to question it; but if three call you a duck, then you might be quacking!  In this case, FIVE were calling me a duck, so they must have seen a beak and a feather or two!  Though it didn't feel good to hear, it definitely allowed me to see me through other's eyes.  Though I didn't like it, I definitely respected it and the loved ones who spoke it.  I have asked God with helping me love people where they are at and a mindset not to cut people off so quickly.  I had done that three times just this week under the guidelines of God removing people that aren't good for me out of my life smh.  NOTE TO SELF:  STOP GIVING CREDIT TO GOD FOR THE DISMANTLING OF SOME RELATIONSHIPS WHEN YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU'RE ALLOWING THE ENEMY TO USE YOU! 

Every now and then its good to take a good look at yourself  and see where you need to improve so that you can become a better you  for the next level of your life.  Ask others to help you in this process, because we all have a blind spot or two when it comes to looking at ourselves.  Be honest with yourselves and open to the process when others are involved. We all have room for improvement and should take every advantage of  the opportunity when given!  Take a chance!  You have nothing to lose.....except some quirks and some excess baggage here and there!  Until next time! Ciao for now!